I read it somewhere that some years are for learning and others for putting into practice what you have learned. Over the past year, I took some time to write down some of the lessons I learned in the year. I hope that 2020 is a “putting into practice” year for me
1. Do not negotiate out of fear. Look fear in the face and walk through it, and be ready to accept the outcomes of your choice. You might be surprised by the way things turn out. #befearless!
2. Show up for the opportunities that come your way, even if you’re not sure how they’ll work out, or even if you don’t have all the necessary resources. By stepping out, you have sent out a prayer to all forces that will rally around you. Just take the first step! Show up!
3. Treat every opportunity as if it’s the only opportunity you have, and give it all you’ve got, so you’ll never regret not doing enough.
4. When you have been hurt and your first instinct is to hurt back or retaliate, overrule yourself. Choose to be kinder and treat the person who hurt you better than you have been treated by them. You’ll be surprised at how ready people are for a chance to re-do.
5. When you are sad, don’t stay in bed; instead, go for a run, a walk, call a friend, blast music, get out of the house—do something, but DO NOT stay in bed.
6. When you are in a difficult situation, think of the ways in which it could be worse. Be happy you are not suffering more than you currently are, and then go for that walk. #sadstories
7. Remember you are your own best advocate. Don’t sell yourself short. Speak up on your own behalf. Ask questions if you want clarifications but don’t ignore your discomfort.
8. Don’t be afraid to push back when you sense that someone is being unreasonable. Every now and then, show anger but demonstrate your points only with facts, not hearsay or speculations. Stay on point! #boundaries
9. You have no control over your reputation or what people think of you, so don’t dwell on it. See if you can clarify things, and if not, continue to do the good you can.
10. You are more powerful than you know. You are a master of every situation. You have the power to change the outcome of your day, if you wish. #lobsterdays
11. The answer to that question is out there. Research! Research! Research! #comments
12. Before you walk into any meeting, ask yourself “What outcome do I want from this meeting?” and then stay focused on that no matter the egos you encounter or the rudeness thrown your way.
13. Do not base your actions on what you hope someone could do for you in the future. Remember, you have no control over another person, only yourself.
14. Cry if you must. There is nothing wrong with that! But give yourself a time limit to do so, and then get on with what you must do
15. Ask, Ask, Ask for Help. And accept help when it is given. There are no awards given for suffering.
16. Always have a plan, a purpose, an intention—it will help to keep things moving!
17. Be prepared to defend yourself before a matter becomes contentious by documenting everything.
18. Do not rely on your memory or the memory of the other party, since that approach will only serve their interests. Again, document!
19. Twenty-four hours is enough time for anything. Do not squander your time on nonsense.
20. The experts don’t always have the right answers—trust yourself. 21. Your first instinct about that new business relationship is probably right, so don’t ignore it. Remain flexible but proceed with caution to avoid needless headaches..
When an unexpected detour occurs, as difficult or sad as it may be, buckle up and go with the flow. There might be a golden coin at the end of that dark tunnel.
23. Do not try too hard to get anybody’s attention. You are enough and very valuable and deserving of attention.
24. At work, always be professional in your actions and words.
25. Always be willing to share what you know and have learned with people around you.
26. Only promise what you can deliver. People will only remember the times you didn’t, no matter the good excuse.
27. Seek advice and counsel from the smart people you trust, but remember that their advice is just their opinion. Ultimately, do what enables you to sleep peacefully at night.
28. "Forgive everybody everything!" (Almost) It does not mean to forget—how can you when it hurts. Tell yourself it won’t matter 2 years from now, and adjust your relationship with the new knowledge you gained from the experience
29. When in doubt, err on the side of love and kindness. #alwayswins.
30. Everything and anything is possible at anytime. Don’t give up just yet!
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